POSSIBLE AND AVOIDED SEXUAL PARTNERS-TYPICAL ANGUISHES IN TRANSITION STAGE

In Transition phase it is expected that teenagers are already familiar with sexual energy in their own bodies and akin ones. Teenagers, then, start to explore what it is like to be in tune with the opposite sex/drive. This period is marked by the first contact with passion and its most important character is the First boyfriend (girlfriend). Erotic desire for the opposite sex is awakened by them. It is also a time of great idealization, whose function is to consolidate sexual and erotic tunning between opposite sexs/energies. If Mother’s feminine model ( in boys’cases) and Father’s masculine model (in girl’s cases) are blocked, fusion doesn’t happen or , else, it just gets partially concluded. In these cases they are able to have sexual/erotic behaviours because they are in tune with sexual/erotic energy in their own body and sex/energy. But they aren’t able to have sexual/erotic interactions, once they lack being in tune with the escalation of erotic desire in the opposite sex/drive[2]. In other words, they are able to sustain highly erotic and desired situations because they have well structured sexual identites of their own sex. They systematically avoid (uncounsciously) highly eroticized situations that demand erotic intimacy with the opposite sex/energy, because boys don’t have well structured feminine sexual identities and girls don’t have well structured masculine sexual identities. Sexual or erotic situations that bring up phobic behaviours, regardless sexual orientation, are signs of S.I blocks. In these cases, it implies not knowing, from inside experience, what it is like to feel in a feminine energy-erotically passive and in touch with intuition, for boys; and what it is like to feel in a masculine energy- erotically active and combative in life, for girls. To be in tune with sexual and erotic desire in the opposite sex/ complementary drive are the biological maturation conditions for a sexual interaction [3]

[1] Anguishes that are triggered by blocks in S.I in this particular phase. [2] I’m using energy and drives as synonyms [3] To more details see Post7-Transition Phase/Transition Phase blocks, in essay Sexual Identity development blocks, in: www.ceciliapsicologa.org. VII Block, Episode 2,-Anguishes regarding Sexual Identity Blocks-Part2, in YouTube-Talking about Psychology with Cecilia Leite

[1] Angústias relativas à bloqueios nessa fase do Desenvolvimento da I.S [2]Para maiores detalhes ver Dias em Post 7-Fase de Transição/Bloqueios na Fase de Transição, em ensaio Bloqueios no desenvolvimento da Identidade Sexual, em : www.ceciliapsicologa.org