Continuing the previous Post, to have a sexual identity concluded pressuposes having masculine and feminine idealized sexual identities formed. It is worth noting that completing idealized sexual identities- of their own sex and the opposite ones- is the necessary condition for people to be in tune with sexual partners in a broader sense. I.e, being in tune, here, refers to individual discharges of pleasure, as well as discharges associated with bodies connection during sex. But it also refers to complimentary energies fitting (propelling-masculine drive and welcoming-feminine drive[1]), present in both bodies. It is plausible to associate erotic escalation peak in a male sex body (ejaculation) with assertive energy (propelling-masculine energy), as well as erotic escalation in a female body (orgasm) with the act of being penetrated (receiving- feminine energy). An Encounter[2][3] happens when two people are mutually attracted and mature regarding the evolution of their sexual identities, which means they have all the possibilities of erotic exchange available.
Such understanding fits perfectly a perspective that takes into account human development as part of species evolution, which assumes that desire and Encounter are, in the end, determined by reproduction- species’ purpose. The controversial point of such assumption is that reproduction can’t entail all kinds of desire presentation- that, in turn, are intimately associated with fantasies-, as well as with many sorts of possibilities of erotic tuning between two bodies. This is a complex topic that, definetly, exceeds the goal of the essay[4]. Indeed, my point is that it is not the sexual orientation that defines a sexual identity (S.I) development stage. As a matter of fact, it is the ability to be in tune with what it is like to be /to feel in feminine and masculine energies, incorporated during idealized sexual identities until the conclusion of the adult sexual identity. Hetero or homosexual oriented people may have blocks or, instead, have well balanced their combativeness (masculine drive) and their connection with their intimate needs and desires (feminine drive) and, therefore, have well balanced passiveness and assertiveness in sex and life. This is a crucial detail because anguishes linked to S.I blocks both in hetero, bi ou homosexual relationships are, many time, associated with the lack of balance or complementarity between combative energies (action in life) and intuition (being in touch with their deep needs and desires), which may appear in many areas of their lives. Anguishes associated with sexual identity blocks are solved by the integration of blocked infantile models, whose goal is to make room for incorporation of new masculine and feminine behavioral models and new references of how to be and feel in both energies. A mature sexual identity implies having all the available possibilities of sexual and erotic exchange between two bodies. This is the definition of sexual interaction.
Finally, it is important to elucidate that both functional and structural blocks entail distinct challenges to clinical approach. The reason is that in structural blocks, the real conflicts at the source of the block are so systematically avoided that, in adulthood, they are, almost always, totally unknown by people. They don’t bring about conflicts and, hence, don’t trigger anxiety. Consequently, doesn’t configure an issue deliberately brought up to be worked out in psychotherapy. Most of the time, they are triggered by unexpected real-life situation. In the next essay I’ll address anguish in personality development. Its goal is to present a general understanding of the concept and its role in emotional development. Moreover, I’ll introduce a new kind of anguish, which emerges in puberty and I’ll also detail the role of anguishes in forming and keeping emotional disorders.
[1] I will use energies and drives as synonyms
[2] Moreno, J.L. The impromptu Man
[3] Dis, V.S. Sexual Identity Evolution. In: Conjugal Bond in Psychodramatic Analysis. (2000). Ágora. SP P-117
[4] A more detail essay will be presented in the sequence.
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