Continuing the previous Post, situations that set-in motion erotic desire for someone of the opposite sex/energy may trigger, in people blocked at this stage, unconscious avoiding behaviors (the technical term for them is phobic). Such behaviors may go into an escalation process from: felling uneasy, very embarrassed, or even panic, when faced with highly desired eroticized situations. These people resort to: 1) Masturbation, 2) Low eroticized relationships, 3) Eroticized and desired situations that do not demand from boys being in tune with masculine drive and, from girls, being in tune with feminine drive (1)(2) Possible Sexual Partner (psp) Thus, their possible sexual partners will be the ones who do not demand from women being in tune with their feminine energy in erotic desired situations and, from men, being in tune with their masculine energy in erotic desired situations. Avoided Sexual Partner In heterosexual eroticized relationships: What is avoided is highly eroticized contact with opposite sex partners they are interested in. In homosexual eroticized relationships: What is avoided is highly eroticized contact with partners that demand, from girls, intimacy with their feminine energy (receiving/accepting one) and, from boys, intimacy with their masculine energy (active and combative one). To be continued in the next Post 1-Until the end of adolescence (around 18 years old), sexual identity is still being developed. It means that sexual identity and sexual preferences aren't yet closely defined. It is true that most of the people who do not feel in tune with the sex assigned at birth, and are at any point of gender spectrum, feel they haven't "fit in" since early years. And it is also true that for a large number of homosexual oriented people their sexual orientation isn't felt like a choice. However, regardless of the complexity os issues comprehended under sexual identity umbrella, during adolescence, sexuality is juts boiling. In puberty exploitation of bodies of the same sex is expected without necessarily being concerned with sexual orientation. In addition, aside form eroticism, belonging is alo crucial. Experiences that put teenagers in evidence regarding social performances will tend to be desired. Therefore, in adolescence, sexual and gender identity issues should consider all these possibilities and their specificities. A more detail essay on this matter is coming soon.
2-For more details see Post 8- Possible and avoided sexual partners- typical anguishes in specular stage, in: Anguishes
in sexual life. In: www.ceciliapsicologa.org
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