In highly erotic and desired situations that demand their Sexual Identities from the opposite sex/complementary energy (i.e, sexual and erotic intimacy with the opposite sex/energy) , people blocked in this phase may get into a phobic escalation from: felling uneasy, very embarassed or even panic. These people count on:
1) Masturbation, 2) Low eroticized relationships 3) Highly eroticized and desired situations that do not demand role reversal and or being in tune with masculine drive (in women’s case) and being in tune with feminine drive (in men’s case)
Possible Sexual Partners-
-The ones with whom it is possible to establish a relationship with sexual discharge and erotic intimacy
-Sexual behaviours with no sexual interaction
Avoided Sexual Partners-
Heterosexual highly eroticized situations/relationships:
-Erotic intimacy/complicity with desired partners of the opposite sex (i.e enjoying sexual interaction)
Homosexual highly eroticized situations/relationships:
Erotic intimacy/complicity with the complementary energy- enjoying sexual interaction[2]
The most common and relevant characteristic of anguishes related to S.I is that a pattern of systematic avoidance is created (psychodynamics), that ends up “erasing”, from consciousness, memories liked to conflicting content. As time goes by, these memories are forgotten (erased from consciousness) and hence, don’t bring anxiety or come deliberately as material to psychotherapy.
[1] For more details see Dias in Post 3-Heterosexual Phase-heterosexual phase blocks, in Essay: Sexual Identity development Blocks, in: www.ceciliapsicologa.org /Chapter VII-Anguishes regarding sexual partners. Episode 2-YouTube-Talking about psychology with Cecília Leite
[2] Sexual identity blocks become more subtle as development goes by. People blocked in Transition Phase are expected to know what it is like to enjoy erotic desire in their own bodies so as to keep highly eroticized and desired situations. Phobic escalation may happen if the situation demands erotic complicity. It commonly brings huge suffering and is hard to diagnose because people, most of the times, don’t realize they aren’t able to “grasp” and enjoy their partners desire escalation. They are erotically attracted and, many times, committed to the situations (romantically investing in them), but repeat a kind of “neurotic destiny” in which situations /relationships with highly desired partners are meant to fail.
[1] Para maiores detalhes ver Dias em Post 8- Fase Heterosexual- Bloqueios na fase heterosexual em ensaio: Bloqueios no desenvolvimento da Identidade Sexual, em: www.ceciliapsicologa.org Bloco VII- Episódio 2-Angústias geradas por bloqueios no Desenvolvimento da Identidade Sexual- Parte 2, em YouTube Falando de Psicologia com Cecília Leite. [2] Os bloqueios na I.S se tornam mais sutis à cada fase. Uma pessoa retida na fase de Transição conhece o prazer no próprio corpo e tem bem estruturada a capacidade de sustentar situações altamente erotizadas e desejadas. A escalada fóbica em situações eróticas altamente desejadas vêm da eventual “exigência” de cumplicidade erótica. São situações de grande sofrimento e difícil diagnóstico porque a pessoa não se dá conta de que não “capta”e não curte o prazer sexual do outro. Ela sente prazer e investe amorosamente mas cumpre uma espécie de “destino neurótico” em que encontros ou relações com parceiros altamente desejados estão fadados a darem errado.
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