Continuing the previous Post, people blocked in self-sexual stage count on:
1)Masturbation; 2) Casual sex (intercourse) with lower eroticized relations; 3) A third Element: fetishism[1] or in someone idealized out of the intercourse.
The “third element” works as a transitional object that allows highly eroticized situations or relationships to be kept without bringing up agitation or phobic escalation. This way, it is possible to be excited in a sexual intercourse when the object that triggers sexual desire is elsewhere, replaced by an object or someone in fantasy- a third element-, but not with the real partner they are in contact with. Someone blocked in self-sexual stage have their neurotic anguish triggered by the direct contact with a real desired sexual partner, since they don’t have well-structured both feminine and masculine sexual identities. Therefore, systematic avoided situations are the ones that demand how to feel and behave as a man or woman in highly eroticized and desired sexual situations. They live with the permanent feeling that desired people are unattainable [2]
Possible Sexual Partner (psp)
Thus, besides masturbation, their possible sexual partners are the ones who do not demand being sexually in tune. They might be casual sex or low eroticized relationships.
Avoided Sexual Partners
The ones who trigger their sexual/erotic desire.
It is worth noting that conflicts associated with sexual identity are not necessarily associated with sexual orientation issues. As a matter of fact, they might have no parallel. What is relevant in evaluating sexual identity blocks is identifying the kind of anguish/suffering they bring about. Conflicts regarding sexual identity blocks are usually hidden and, therefore, do not generate anguish. They are different from the ones concerning cultural oppression, which use to be linked to discrimination, bias, etc. and may result in secrets and, occasionally, in clandestine sexual lives. The last ones are hard to deal with or admit (both to themselves and to others), but people are aware of their causes.
To be continued in the next Post
[1] Fetishism, in this sense, doesn’t refer to preliminary erotic games, but to a necessary condition to keep highly eroticized and desired situations, i.e, to reach orgasm. [2] For more details see Dias in Chapter VII-Episode 2- Anguishes regarding Sexual Identity development blocks- Part 1-, in- Part 1-, in YouTube- Talking about Psychology with Cecília Leite.
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